Bullying at school: an invitation to reflection

It’s some time now we have been talking about bullying and cyber-bullying, a worrying phenomenon that is wide spreading increasingly and it’s characterized by hateful prevarications that start from simple derisions, but that often turn into episodes of real violence practiced and suffered by our children.
Too often the gravity of bullying is underestimated, or because it emerges in places wrongly considered to be sheltered from certain behaviors, or because we confuse these attitudes with episodes that are part of the scholastic "memory" of all of us.
The frequency with which these episodes occur and spread, unfortunately without saving our scholastic reality, reminds us of the need to face this problem with the utmost seriousness and not consider it a "child's play".
We, parents of the School for Europe, are well aware of importance and complexity of this problem and its heavy consequences for those who suffer from it and for actors of such abuse.
Countless social implications, cultural and psychological, do not allow to respond in an easy way to this complex issue. All of us: school, parents, students, institutions, must participate in its solution, each, accordingly to their skills, rights and duties.
The phenomenon is probably intended as a symptom of a profound malaise that hides a series of complications that may arise in the way children grow, in the "frigidity" of families where often the dialogue is absent or even absence of parents is registered, in the lifestyles of a society that seems to have completely abandoned ideals of solidarity and democratic coexistence, and not least the solution to the complex coexistence of the adults themselves.
The school is thus, in spite of itself, in the forefront of having to deal with a problem that occurs more and more frequently and for which there are no simple answers. It seems less problematic to simply transfer onto the school a set of roles and tasks traditionally carried out by other educational and training environments.
At the same time, in our opinion, it is the school, due to its position of centrality with respect to the various stakeholders, which must strive to educate, as well as instruct, especially in the field of emotions, to represent the center of analysis, activity, training, meeting of all those involved in the issue of bullying.
In other words, we would like the school to be the real meeting place for our children. We would like this institution to be the most serious competitor of all the social media that the digital revolution has brought with itself, forgetting the essential component of being together.
Only hard team work can put in evidence the peculiarities and causes of a phenomenon, responsible for dangerous social discrimination and exclusion. In schools, human relationships based on dialogue and civil confrontation should represent the basis of a solid civil culture.
We will propose to organize meetings on this topic in cooperation with the school, to build a trustful relationship of collaboration and we’ll try to find a point of reference for children and parents who could find themselves in difficulty.
We believe, finally, that the problem cannot be left to the media, often just looking for clamor and led, by its nature, to highlight the tip of the iceberg, rather than to search causes that make it emerge.

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